Today I write about two tools of healing.
This first tool is to use art, to help you heal. Art gets you out of your brain and into your body. Art allows you to process and use creativity to heal. Art allows you to set aside thinking and rehashing and puts you into a place of flow where the wisdom of your body takes over and brings healing.
Art is broad, it could be poetry, performing, singing, painting, sculpting, or putting your hands into clay. Art can be doodling. Art doesn't have to be pretty to be effective. Sometimes, I have scribbled to release what I was feeling, The colors and textures have released what I could not.
Whatever art you enjoy, do it. Sometimes it is helpful to make an intention to do a project that is related to spiritual abuse. Other times it is not necessary. You do art because it makes you feel good.
That brings me to the second tool, which is respite. Respite is taking a break from a difficult or unpleasant task. Respite is an intentional period of resting and relief. During times of respite, people will exercise self care, They may play or just take a quick get away.
Focusing on spiritual abuse, and your experience of spiritual abuse, is hard work. It is frequently re-exposure to trauma. It is absolutely necessary to take breaks from the work of healing. Sometimes we have to stop trying, and doing, and just spend time being.
Cults and high control groups want to keep you busy. Once we break free there is discomfort with down time, and in the absence of cult activities, there is a lot more time. It can feel selfish to rest. But rest prevents burnout and allows for rejuvenation.
Respite is an intentional act of self care. It requires that you listen to your intuition and act upon your inner wisdom. Your inner wisdom will tell you, "This is too much." You may feel overwhelmed by reading blogs, or being active helping others, or posting on social media. Listen to your gut. Trust that in your absence, other people will be available to help.
Trust that even when you are not actively, mentally addressing spiritual abuse, healing is taking place. Whenever you do art, or rest, or play, you live outside of the abusive control or harmful belief. You honor your body and your needs. Art and respite bring healing.
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