The need for fairness can be childish and ego driven. When one is protesting, “That is not fair” that person should stand back and look within. Is the situation really corrupt, unjust, showing favoritism, or has the person merely experienced a disappointment? Is the ego protesting, saying, “I deserve more” or “What about me?”
When you find yourself saying, “It’s not fair," here are some thoughts to help you keep things in check. For example, if you were passed over for recognition, tell yourself things like this, “Another opportunity for recognition will open up for me. If this is a permanent situation, I can move on to where people will appreciate me. It’s the day to celebrate her accomplishments. It’s not all about me.”
If fairness means equality, then most of life can never be fair. For example, when children share a soda, they want the same amount, but that cannot be achieved. On a cellular or molecular level, one child will receive more.
An unfair situation may reveal more about the giver, than the recipient or the one left out. Some people are manipulative. They give or exclude to hurt or to establish control. If that is the case, it can be self-respecting to leave and to not put up with the behavior.
What matters is, when things are unfair, where will your focus be? Will you focus on what you have or on what you lack? Will you cling to the situation, or let it go; will you move on? Will you accept it or will you let it ruin your day? Can you find joy and be happy for the other person?