Forgiveness is a decision that benefits the decider. It is a choice based in reality: Given what I know, I choose to no longer let you be punished for what you did; All the pain you caused me, I am willing to let it go; I will carry the scars with me, but I will no longer focus on how I got them; I am deciding to end on love.
How does one know forgiveness is occurring within them?
Forgiveness is taking root when you can redirect your thoughts, when you can stop obsessing and you begin to weigh the damage that unforgiveness is doing to yourself.
Forgiveness is final when your stories change, when you can talk about what happened without recalling the wrong, and when you speak about the good, the love, or the joy that existed before the wrong.
Forgiveness takes honesty, courage and self discipline. First you must be honest with yourself and admit that you need to forgive. It takes courage to let go because you might not know who you are without it. You may not know what will be left when you let go. You let go of an identity or a role you’ve been playing, and step into new territory.
It takes discipline to let go of the past and choose to stay in the present moment. It takes discipline to let go of being right and allow yourself to choose happiness. Do you need to forgive someone?