Loneliness as a spiritual condition comes from within a person, regardless of external circumstances. Loneliness is caused by a non-acceptance of one’s current situation. One has slipped from gratitude and being in the present moment.
One is lonely when comparing the past to the present. “Back then I had…Now I don’t have…” Loneliness is based in loss.
Loneliness is also present when one does not enjoy being in his or her own presence, for one can be alone and not feel lonely. One can do much to improve their level of enjoyment when others are not around. One can work to change habits or circumstances.
If a decision you made has isolated you, then make a new decision. Even things that seemed permanent in the beginning can be undone. Things can be thought through again as new evidence comes to light. Forgiveness can help restore some broken relationships. In other cases, hold your ground; revisiting a past relationship may prolong agony. Grieve and move forward.
A person can get stuck and feel miserable and all alone in this world. He or she can also do something different and new. Circumstances are seldom permanent.
Loneliness is based in loss. Gratitude is based in the appreciation one has for every little thing in their life. One can also look back in gratitude and say, “I enjoyed that, and I am lucky to have had that gift in my life.”
Loneliness denies reality. Loneliness exaggerates: “This is terrible. This is lasting.” In truth, all of life is ebbing and flowing. Friends come and go. This too will pass. This pain or loss will lessen. Joy will return. Happiness happens. New friends will arrive.
The answer for loneliness is giving. Give to another person, or even an animal. Share. Do acts of service. Stop thinking of only you and your circumstances.
Ask yourself, where can I volunteer? Who is lonelier than I am? Who needs what I have to give? Find that niche and give of yourself, for by focusing on others, your loneliness will dissipate.
Be the change you want to see. Invite that person over. Talk to that person in line or on the bus. Notice who you enjoy seeing and nurture friendship with that person. Cherish the relationships you have and soon your loneliness will pass.