When rejection comes, you can learn to be thankful for it. Rejection is a closed door, and our life is shaped not only by the things that draw us joyfully, but by the things that pain us and force us to move into a new direction. When a door is closed, we discover new openings.
Rejection is a gift, and the person doing the rejection is our teacher. In fact, they may be our very good teacher. The greater the rejection, the larger the lesson may be. When rejection comes we may learn to say, regarding the rejecter, “Thank you for being my very good teacher.” When we are thankful for the lesson, we can wish the teacher well and be on our way. When we do not stop and learn the lesson, we are bound to repeat the mistake. We will come across more teachers. When rejection comes, it is time to stop and reflect.
Rejection is a gift that can be used to catapult one into seeking clarity. Clarity can help you grow as a person and move in a more productive direction. An inward look may reveal that you have placed too much power in another person’s opinion of you. You may have invested in an emotionally unavailable person or put them in the position of being your only source of comfort or affirmation.
When rejection comes, it can be helpful to ask: What is my role in this? Asking how you got there, can show you what needs to be changed next time. Ask: How am I allowing his or her opinion to define who I am? Where have I relinquished my responsibilities? Did I place all my eggs in one basket or did I seek out many possibilities?
A time of rejection is a time to step back and review one’s priorities. A door is closing. What needs to happen next? What beliefs are faulty and need adjusting? Have you clung tightly to a relationship or an opportunity because your world view is that of scarcity? Is there really only one person, one opportunity, or one pathway? Be honest with yourself. Was your effort shoddy? Did you invest too much? Were you there as the other person’s teacher? Did you ignore warning signs along the way?
When we are honest with ourselves, and ask the hard questions, we grow from the experience. Rejection takes on new meaning. Rather than rejection feeling like a senseless wounding, we can see rejection as a moment of learning. Without the need to please others, or live by their opinions, what risks might you be willing to take? What new direction can you be heading? When you have shed the weight of rejection, you are free to seek out endless possibilities. Instead of anticipating the worst, why not predict the best? You may come out ahead. You have faced one lost; be thankful for what you are gaining. It is unnecessary to hate, when you are filled with gratitude, and you can see all the possibilities on the horizon. Be thankful always.